Our weekly journals are simply assignments kept of questions answered pertaining to the content we learned in the chapter of our book that corresponds to that week. I believe this assignment relates to Thinking and Problem Solving skills most, out of all of the 21st century skills. I think this is because I was able to display thinking and problem solving through this assignment via literary analysis. I think I am most proud of my self-concept analysis. Sometimes I lose myself, and it can be really hard to find myself again, but I was able to describe a big contributor of my personality and acknowledge it. I was also able to look deeper into myself and understand how I display myself to others, and how I am when I am alone. I improved on my thinking and problem solving skills by working through internal issues to submit a quality paper in a timely manner to my professor, while still using the textbook vocab to form my sentences and structure. I think the most difficult part was incorporating the textbook into my answers. I wanted my responses to sound intelligent and thought out, however I think I was able to get that message across. If I could start over, I would probably give an example of one of our conversations that displays bredth and depth to give more of an idea of what our bredth and depth looks like in an average conversation. This relates to what I briefly learned about self concepts in Psychology. Though we didn't go over much, we did go over the idea that self concept is how we perceive ourselves. I can apply bredth and depth to future relationships to see how close the person and I have gotten, and how much ground we need to cover. I can also use self concepts as bounds to determine what kind of people I should be friends with and who I'd get along with.
ASSIGNMENT QUESTIONS + ANSWERS
PROMPT: First, complete the “Who Am I?” questionnaire below. Then, after determining 30 elements of your self-concept and selecting your “Top 3,” take a close look at ONE of these three items. What factor(s) (e.g., biology, reflected appraisal, social comparison, or something else) do you think have contributed to this element of your perceived self? Explain.
My “Top 3” elements of my self-concept:
_extraverted__ ___music enjoying__ __student__
I will be taking a closer look at the descriptor music enjoyer. I grew up engulfed in music; whether it was yoga music from my mom's stereo on the way to the beach, my dad playing and singing classic rock before my brother and I went to bed, the pop songs on the radio playing quietly in the background on the way to elementary, middle, and high school, or the gothic records my friend and I would put on at her house. I think, however, I chose the genre I love so much, was because of social comparison. I was an impressionable 14-year-old, who loved The Beatles, The Go-Go's, and a lot of classic rock. I was on social media a lot at that age and saw this girl on my for you page who listened to riot grrrl (feminist punk). I thought it was the coolest thing ever. I immediately found multitudes of playlists of riot grrrl music because I wanted to even compare to the girl in the floral dress, fishnets, and combat boots on my for you page. At this time I tried to buy a lot of things (most I don't wear now) to look like this girl. I thought the movement and the style was so incredible. It was from that point on that I started listening entirely to punk, and goth, and new wave, and 90s indie rock, and ska, and so on. I started wearing fishnets, and tights, and floral dresses, and alternative band tee shirts. I started going to punk shows, never leaving anywhere without headphones, and owning copious amounts of vinyl and CDs. I believe the huge change gave me a unique identity to cling to; not just one my parents, boys, or my friends like. Not that it's the only thing about my personality, however, it has created a lot of it. It formed my political views, how I spend my time, and who I spend it with. Directions: Imagine that you were asked to create a “box” that represents who you are; the inside of the box would represent your perceived self, while the outside of the box would reflect your presenting self.
1. I would decorate the inside of my box with words such as loud, singing, lonely, productive, sleepy, overthinking, hungry, and depressed. 2. To decorate the outside of my box, I would paint words such as impulsive, extraverted, talkative, social, loud, happy, sarcastic, feeling, and carefree. 3. I wish I wasn't so lonely and depressed when I am alone. I was never good at living with myself, and that's something I'd like to change. However, I like that I am productive alone because it lets me finish a lot of homework and get a lot done. I think I would also change how talkative I am. I interrupt people a lot on accident, and I believe it can negatively impact some of my relationships. 4. No matter where I am, I'm loud and talkative. Whether talking to myself or someone else. Though it can be a great trait to have, sometimes it can be a bit much and overwhelming to me and others around me. I believe I am overall happier with others than without. I want to start to be able to reflect this happiness in my private life as well as my public life. 5. I think it's best for our perceived self to be similar to our presenting self. If that were the case, I think a lot of people would learn what they love about themselves and realistic things they may want to work on. It can also help us recognize the kind of people we want to surround ourselves with. By knowing what qualities we have it can help us find qualities to look for in other people to build strong relationships.
Make a social penetration model for a relationship that is important to you, indicating the breadth and depth of self-disclosure in the relationship. 1. In this model I am disclosing to one of my closest friends. 2. I am completely satisfied with the breadth and depth of this relationship. We’ve known each other for over seven years and our conversations are still fantastic and filled with new information. I’d say we have incredible breadth, as we talk about ranging subjects throughout the years. Whether they’re extremely personal and private, simply explaining what we dreamt the previous night, or what music we’ve been interested in lately. We interact every day and exchange extremely personal details about our lives, mental states, and other things. We always have flowing communication about various amount of topics, personal or not, which is why I am extremely satisfied with our breadth and depth.